Dear Diary – Day 11

Saturday , hmmm, had to wake up early to go play badminton, this was about the only exercise I got every week, 2 hours of straight playing and my exercise routine was done for the week. Most times it can be fun , we don’t always count points we mostly toss the ball back and forth, have fun and burn fat at the same time.

Got back around 9am , remembered I was meeting my friend Abby’s hubby around 2pm at a restaurant not to far from my home, we felt a neutral place would be better for our discussion, also at that time the restaurant would be practically empty, so chances of anyone sitting close enough to eavesdrop was slim to none

To pass time I decided to tidy out my shoe closet, the house had been cleaned by the cleaners yesterday, everywhere was sparkling clean. I looked at all the shoes and decided it was time to give away any pair I hadn’t put on in 6 months , sorted through the lot put the give away ones in a duffel bag and placed it near the front door, would drop this off at the thrift shop on my way out . Between packing shoes, rustling up some breakfast the time passed quickly , at 1.15pm I left the house for the restaurant , I didn’t want to be late, I got there, had about 10 mins to spear, just as I was getting comfortable in walks Abby’s hubby.

He was tall and handsome , had this boyish charms about him , we exchanged pleasantries and he asked if we should order first, we ordered lunch and drinks , and decided to start our discussion while we waited for the meal.

He started off by apologising for me being dragged into the middle of their affairs , he felt it should be an intimate private matter which he and his wife should work out. I quickly pointed out that I wasn’t there to apportion blame , that what I do is to hear both sides out and advice on how best they can be sorted by both parties involved . That seemed to relax him a bit and he started to talk- ” My wife is an amazing woman, she is strong, kind , loving and dedicated , I love her very much but when it come to love making she is boring, when we make love I have tried to get her to try new things but she is only comfortable with the missionary position. I want us to experiment , I have tried everything , talking , videos , getting upset with her , nothing seems to work, I even mentioned that some positions will guarantee she has not one but multiple organisms ” at this point I smiled , he continued , ” please help me , I don’t want to step out on her but am getting really frustrated, I tried to get her comfortable in a different position once , she asked me if I thought she was a prostitute , I said yes, you are , mine. She didn’t talk to me for a whole day, I had to apologise so many times , I will be so happy if you can talk to my wife and you can make her see my point.”

I had heard this said by Husbands all the time, wives set in their ways not wanting to go on a sexual adventure with their husbands , the picture was clearer to me now, I must talk to my friend again ,I then looked at him and said , ” you need to be patient , don’t get fed up or stop communicating your feelings to her , also you can still introduce foreplay, find her G spot with the missionary position and she will definitely climax, maybe once she’s satisfied she will be comfortable to try other positions . It’s difficult for a woman who doesn’t get fulfilled from one position to try something new, I would definitely have a talk with her” .

Just then our meal came , we ate, laughed and played catch up, we finally left the restaurant around 4pm. On my way home I called Abby to come by the house on Sunday for 6pm. She asked if we could make it 4pm, I said fine, so tomorrow 4pm had been fixed . Meanwhile, I had just over 1 hour before the girls arrived , the last time they were here I promised them pizza, so I stopped to get 2 large pizzas and some chicken wings , I had drinks at home , girls night was set.

Funny enough they all arrived in Tinus car, they had appointed her driver for the night, Tinu and I don’t drink , but Reniks and Bemmy , hmmmm another story. We started off sitting on the rug in my living room, I got to go first , tabled the Mont Blanc issue , decision was anonymous “keep it girl , it’s a gift” okay , Reniks turn , one of her girls was pilfering and she caught her red handed but she was the best Spa hand she had , what should she do , she had spent so much sending her to Malaysia to get trained , couldn’t afford to sack her ,Bemmy suggested that each time money got missing it should be deducted from her salary , chikena, we all agreed, next was Tinu, she only wanted to know how to get her hubby to buy her a new car, I pointed out that her current car was barely 1 year old, she said she knew but he had just got himself the latest Range Rover autobiography, she wants a jeep too, we all laughed and called her ole. Bemmy then said , I got nothing to say , all is well , we knew she was holding back, so we pressed her, she then said well she met this cute guy during the week and she was infatuated with him, I asked if she was planning to take it further , she said definitely not. Hmmmm, then nothing else to discuss , we all laughed and agreed , all cases closed .

They finally left around 10pm, straight to bed for me. Good night.

Dear Diary- Day 10

Thank God it’s Friday , I really had a good night sleep, allowed myself to get out of bed late this morning cos I didn’t get much sleep yesterday , got up finally around 8.30am, did my morning rituals , then went straight to work. The good thing about today was I had a really light day, just one meeting out of the office at 1pm, actually I was meeting a male client at his hotel. Please don’t start thinking , what’s she meeting a man in an hotel for, I have no other choice, he owns the hotel and wants my opinion on some stuff, not sure what , until I get there.

A couple of my staff had the day off, the rest were not in sight when I walked in to my office , my ES, was in my office looking for a file, as soon as she saw me , she starting apologising that she couldn’t find the clients file for my 1pm meeting , she had assumed I had given it to her yesterday. It was in my briefcase I had taken it home to read through , anyway that was the height of the drama in my office on Friday up until 12pm the office was very quiet , I sat in my office listening to some Jazz music and caught up on my writing .

At 12pm my ES came into my office announcing that I had a guest who refused to say his name , I sent her back to say , no name , no audience . She came back seconds later with a business card,
It had the initials P. C Prince , with a telephone no, no address, no designation , just a card made out of gold coloured metal . I asked her to let him in. To my surprise in walks Prince , the same prince that had asked me to Dubai a while ago.

We exchanged pleasantries , I motioned him to sit down but before I could say anything else , he produced a rectangular gift wrapped box from his suit pocket and said here is a peace offering for all my bad behaviour. I took it said thank you and dropped it in my drawer, I wasn’t going to give him the satisfaction of looking all existed with whatever it was . He politely asked me to open it , so I took it back out and carefully unwrapped it , when I did , I was surprised , it was a gold trim Mont Blanc pen, engraved with my name. I didn’t know what to say, I just blotted out, I can’t accept it but thank you. He smiled , ignored what I just said, got up and as he walked out he said i must take it to show I had forgiven him. With that he was gone.

I decided I wasn’t going to use it , so I just dropped it in my desk draw, got up and went to my 1 pm meeting . Chief Emma, the hotelier was a very nice man but his favourite colour was gold, he was determined to make sure everyone knew this by plastering the hotel with everything gold. When I worked in I thought I was in the Dubai gold soux , if you know what I mean , gold paint, gold color furniture , gold drapes , whoa , was all I could say. He was expecting me, he wanted my advice on what I thought about the decor for the hotel, I was planning to hold my tongue , How do I tell this nice man that the places looked very tacky with all this gold colour hanging around. Anyway I asked for a tour of the entire hotel , once that was done , I asked him to give me the weekend to come up with a proposal for decor. The hotel was new , most of the rooms had not been furnished , there was still hope , I smiled to myself.

Driving back to the office I decided to stop off at my friend’s place, Reniks had a boutique and a really nice Spa, she was there most of the time. I got there just as she was driving out, she had to pick the kids from school , it was 2.45pm, I didn’t even check the time , school run time. We decided she will come by the house later that evening .

I decided to go home, called my Executive secretary , to let her know I had closed for the day, and I drove home. Around 7pm Reniks called to move our girls night to tomorrow, she said bemmy and Tinu also want to come over . With nothing else to do , I had a salad , watched a bit of telly and went to bed, I was awake for a while thinking about prince and his gift, hmmm, should I keep it or send it back . Tomorrow I would see what my friends think, with that I went to sleep

Hardly slept a wink, was up all night putting finishing touches to my proposal, I was like a child looking forward to a trip of a lifetime. Finally rounded off around 4.30am , decided to take a few winks until 6am then get ready for work. The phone was ringing in the distance, I thought I was dreaming , I finally opened my eyes it was 7.45am .

Got to the office at 8.55am, panting and looking all frazzled. My 9am was waiting , barely had a minute to put myself together,
Mrs D, was one of my longtime clients she came into a lot of money recently ( don’t ask)-and was looking to start a new business , she had chosen my company to help with that . When I first met her I had asked what she enjoyed doing most, she said cooking, so we decided a restaurant cooking authentic ethnics food was the way forward , she loved the idea , I warned her though that it would require a lot of her time, she agreed initially now she was looking for a way that we can step in and handle the management aspect. We had had several meetings at which I pointed out to her that our hands were full and we would not be able to take on the management. Last week she insisted on coming to see me today for something really urgent , I was all ears .

Mrs D, was no longer interested in opening a restaurant , she now wants to package raw food .i listened to her all the way to the end, said I understood, called in my ES, and asked her to take Mrs D to our business development manager , he will sort her out.

I was due to go submit my proposal for 11am ,could not allow Mrs D to delay me. Got to the liaison office on time, they were waiting for me , I was ushered Into the Chief liaison officer’s office, he looked at my proposal went straight to the total cost and asked me to come back on Monday for my cheque I was in shock, just like that , no amendments, no reductions, whoa , My Father in Heaven was really smiling down on me. I got up quickly said my thank you and practically ran to my car. I was so excited , was still trying to wrap my head round it when I heard a tap on my side door. Standing there was the governors son, he had just pulled in to the car pack , I didn’t see him get out of his car, I must have ran passed him.

I got out of my car, we exchanged pleasantries, I told him I came to submit the proposal . He asked if I was in a hurry, I blotted out yes, he said okay we will talk later , I hurriedly got in my car and drove off.
My head was pounding, what did I say that for, I wasn’t busy or in a hurry , I just didn’t want the situation to get awkward. I was assuming , assumptions are the mother of all ‘F’ ups, so my uncle used to say. Hmmmm.

Much later when he called and told me he just wanted us to go over the furniture arrangement and colours he liked for the houses , I felt like a full. Big Lesson – ,not all men are the same , just because a Man is nice to you doesn’t mean he has an ulterior motive , silly me .

Anyway Got home much later , still have the Saturday appointment with my friends hubby, God please give me wisdom ,

Got to go to bed now , really sleepy ….see you all tomorrow

The call came in around 2pm yesterday, , he asked for my email address . A few minutes later a request was sent for me to furnish 4 luxury homes , I was asked to submit my quotation immediately . I fell on my knees with my hands raised up , screaming Thank you God, I had prayed to God for a particular amount for a very urgent need, Kenneth Hagin’s book , Bible study prayer course , had taught me how to pray for answers , it’s called The key to answered prayers , I put what I read into practice and the result was divine . God Almighty had favoured me.

I rolled on the carpet , thanking God , I couldn’t believe I just did that, my Mum used to do it every time she was thanking God, I used to make fun of her, now it was my turn, hmmm, life is full of surprises .

Anyway let me digress a little, just before the call came , a friend had called that she needed some advice , she came down to my office and told me she had a really serious problem . She was not being satisfied by her hubby sexually , she asked me what I thought she should do? I paused for a minute , then asked if she had discussed this with him, she said she had but almost every time he gets upset and says he’s perfectly capable of satisfying any woman that she must have a problem of her own. She confided in my that almost all the time she faked her orgasms, and that he was incapable of getting her to orgasm naturally.

Anytime they had sex , he just bounced up and down on top of her until he came then he rolls over and starts to snore, his only foreplay was to rub her nipples up and down and that was that. He was so selfish she said.
I remembered having this same conversation with some other friends of ours and now they are finally both enjoying their love making and according to them it’s getting g better and better everyday .

I asked my friend if she won’t mind if I spoke to her husband privately about this , then get them both together to talk about it, she said that was fine, Saturday night at 7 pm , she will let him know I was coming over to see him. Today was Wednesday. I had three days to try to sort this out, even though I talk on this topic all the time, every relationship is different , I had to keep an open mind until I heard his side of the story…….

I got back on my laptop and started to write out the proposal , it was due in tomorrow, I was told my deposit of 80% would be made available immediately . As I thought about it , my mums favourite song came to my mind ….and I sang and sang unto the Lord…..

Got to go now , see you guys tomorrow ….

Yesterday started off really slow but quickly took off like a cheetah on steroids , if that makes any  sence. Woke up at the usual time did my morning rituals , then I couldn’t decided which shoes to wear, my outfit was plain enough but just couldn’t make up my mind , so I brought out 4 pairs that matched and began catwalking in front of the mirror. Finally decided on the brown sandals , hmmm , women and their wahala.

Drove out of my area onto the highway and just as I pulled out ,I saw a man waving me to stop , he was standing next to his car, a very nice one . I was reluctant, he could be an armed robber or kidnapper or worse, anyway I reversed back cos I had driven passed him. He walked up to the side of my car and said he needed my help. I thought maybe he ran out of gas. I could see he was a bit embarrassed , so I asked him what the matter was.  He and his driver were on their way to an important meeting , his driver had been late showing up this morning ,he was very angry with the driver , while they were driving he was telling the driver off and threatened to sack  him, the driver just indicated , moved over to the hard shoulder.  Switched off the engine , threw his key at him and walked away. And guess what the most surprising thing was , he couldn’t drive.

I was so shocked , a grown man of late 30’s or early 40’s, I guess and couldn’t drive, I found that ridiculously funny, he explained that it would take to long to get someone else to come pick him, if I could please drive him to his meeting which he was almost late for , he would be eternally grateful, so against all of my better judgement , I asked him to come in and I drove him to his meeting , we exchanged nos and I was off.

At around 4pm , a call with a restricted no came on my phone , I asked my PA to pick it up , the caller asked for me and said it was urgent , from one of the State governments liaison  offices.  I took the phone said hello , the voice said they were sending a car to pick me up that the governors son will like to meet with me for a meeting .

I got to the liaison office and was ushered in to a big palatial room, waiting in there was the man I had picked up this morning , he was the Governors first son. I was very surprised , he got up to welcome me and with so much gratitude in his eyes he ushered me to sit down beside him. He started off by explaining that the meeting he was rushing too was a state affair, his father had nominated him to represent the state and sign a very lucrative deal with some foreign investors who wanted to invest in the state . If he had missed the meeting , the investors would have pulled out  of the deal for sure . He thanked me so much and then asked me what I did for work , I told him I was a consultant , he then said okay.  He will call me tomorrow, offered me a drink , I respectfully declined , he saw me off to the car that had been sent to pick me up and asked them to take me back to my office .

As they drove me back to my office and as I drove back home yesterday evening , I kept thinking what does he want to say to me today …well let’s wait and see.