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Children are very vulnerable , be careful who you trust with them.
Children are very vulnerable , be careful who you trust with them. People who live in your house, house helps, friends and relations , some of them end up being your child’s abuser, here is a true story- a father came home and found his female house help in his sons bed, his son was 8, she had her pants down, the little boy was lying on top of our with no pants either, she was trying to get him to make love to her, he could not believe his eyes. When questioned the little boy said it had been going on for a while and that the house help threatened that if he told anybody she will starve him and then make him disappear, he believed her, because she took care of him all day long. Please be mindful, teach your kids to always talk to you if anyone touches or says anything inappropriate to them……
THE ONE FOR ME..
Hello! It’s great to see that you are reflecting on important questions about relationships and personal growth. It’s true that each person is unique and has their own journey to follow. While it’s natural to admire qualities in our parents or others, it’s important to recognize that we cannot simply emulate their lives or experiences.
Finding a partner who is compatible with us is about more than just finding someone who has qualities similar to our parents or other role models. It’s about finding someone who shares our values, interests, and goals, and who can support us as we grow and change over time.
It’s also important to remember that relationships require effort and commitment. If we want to have a successful relationship, we need to be willing to put in the work to make it thrive. This means being honest with ourselves and our partners about our needs, communicating openly and respectfully, and being willing to compromise and make sacrifices when necessary.
So, to answer your question, if you are truly committed to achieving your desired outcome, you need to be willing to put in the effort and make the necessary changes in yourself and in your approach to relationships. Remember, the most important thing is to be true to yourself and to find someone who loves and accepts you for who you are.
I wish you all the best.
I will testify:
Mathew 10:32
‘’So everyone who acknowledges me before men, I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in heaven’’.We have received several request to publish testimonies about people who have been through trials and tribulations, but have successfully found favor with God and overcame. From tomorrow we will publish testimonies on our page. If you would please like us to publish yours, please send it as a message, names can be withheld at your request. Your testimony will go a long way to encourage someone going through a similar situation and will glorify God.
Thank you.
HERE IS PROSPERITY..
God gave me the opportunity last week to meet an amazing young woman. She a graduate of business , looking for a job for a while decided to go into petty trading . She had taken the little savings she had, bought the goods . She got up early every morning , went to the street corner to sell. Not minding her graduate status . she sat at the street corner with local uneducated women selling her product everyday.
Ms M, who walked by the street corner on her way to and from work became her favourite customer, she loved to patronise her , not because she knew she was a graduate , but because her product always tasted fresh , she looked clean and very neat, compared to other sellers of the same product around her.
Ms M, coincidentally worked in a food processing company, several months later the company was looking for supplies of that particular product in very large quantities. She remembered the woman at the corner and recommended her to the company .
The day the woman came to the company, I was there , she sat at the reception , looking very dignified. As I walked in something struck me about her confidence and poise. I stopped , sat down next to her and asked her how she was doing? She responded politely .
I asked how business was ? ! she said “fine, am just selling this product to while away the time, am looking for a job Ma and I want to go for my masters”. What she said at the end even made me smile a lot more, she said , “I also want to dress like all the celebrates , look good and drive nice cars” .
I looked at her for a minute and God began to speak through me , I said ” young woman , why are you looking for a job , when God has already given you a job, from this product you sell, God is about to give you a contract to supply products worth millions. From this product , you can build houses, buy cars , go for your masters , even go into export, package the product and sell in stores and the best part is you are the CEO of your own company. What are you still looking for?”
She looked at me and smiled, she said ” Thank God for you, I actually had a dream that I would sell this product, just before I started , in the dream I was selling and lots of money was coming into my hand. , I just feel it’s a lower level job and beneath me ” .
For a lot of us , God has already provided a job for us , but we still see it as a temporary stop-gap, beneath us or not what we want to do. What we should be doing, is see how we can bring it up to our level. Our prosperity could be in what we are doing now. Your education and exposure will give you the ability to refine and take the service or product to a different level.
May God Almighty , open our eyes to see what he has already provided before us and to see the potentials in it. God will grant you favour with Man and with God and whatsoever you lay your hands on will prosper, by the grace of God. Amen.
Good morning ….
BETRAYED; By so called best friend
As I stood outside my best friend’s door, I couldn’t help but feel a deep sadness in my heart. It was hard to accept that the one person I trusted the most had betrayed me. My mind was racing as I thought back to all the times we had shared together, the laughter, the tears, and the secrets.
But as I stood there, I began to realize something that I had overlooked before. My best friend always seemed to have the perfect life. Whenever I complained about something, my best friend’s response was always, “That could never happen to me.” And while I confided in my best friend with all my deepest secrets, my best friend never did the same in return. It was always about giving advice, but never about sharing.
It was a harsh reality to accept, but I knew I had to face it. We were both married, but while I had been happy up until a few hours ago, my best friend’s marriage had never been happy. My best friend’s advice had been nothing but empty promises, and I had fallen for it.
It all started when I went to my best friend to complain about some things that my partner wouldn’t do, but that I expected to be done. My best friend suggested that I set an ultimatum, saying that it would never happen in their own relationship. It sounded like a good idea at the time, but it had disastrous consequences.
When my partner didn’t meet the ultimatum, my best friend advised me to look for an alternative. I foolishly listened and did just that. It was a decision I would regret for the rest of my life.
And then, as if fate was mocking me, I showed up at my best friend’s house unannounced, only to hear the same things I had been told could never happen in their home. My best friend just stood there, taking it all and apologizing. It was then that I realized my best friend had never truly had my back, and had only wanted to see me end up disgraced, ashamed, and unhappy.
All the little signs of envy my best friend had shown when I talked about my relationship suddenly became clear. The little remarks about revenge, not apologizing first, and demanding what I wanted were all misleading. I should have seen this coming, but I didn’t.
Now, as I head back to make up with my partner, I know who my only true friend is. It’s not my best friend. Instead, it’s God Almighty. I’ve learned my lesson the hard way, but I’m grateful for it. I will never put my trust in someone who only pretends to have my back. Instead, I will trust in the one true friend who will never let me down.
I WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE.
Have you ever pondered on the legacy you’ll leave behind when you’re no longer here? Have you considered how you want to be remembered and the impact you want to have made during your time on earth?
Are you simply coasting through life, indulging in self-centered pleasures and treating others with disdain or condescension based on their social standing?
Do you mistreat people, speak to them disrespectfully, and only choose to associate with those who meet your standards of worthiness?
Are you truly embodying the values of your faith, whether it be Christianity or Islam, in a way that inspires others to come closer to God or causing them to run away in fear?
Do people have to jump through hoops before they can ask for your help or assistance?
Alternatively, are you actively working towards leaving a positive legacy for future generations?
Are you impacting lives positively wherever you go, inspiring others to serve the same God you serve?
Do you treat others with kindness, generosity, care, and respect, knowing that people will remember how you made them feel long after they’ve forgotten what you gave them?
Remember, you were born to thrive, irrespective of your background, and God has ordained you to prosper and be a blessing in all that you set your mind to. You must strive to achieve your goals, sow seeds of positivity wherever you go, and impact the lives of those around you every single day.
It’s time to reflect on your purpose if you haven’t already and start making positive changes. A life without purpose is like a journey without leaving a trail. When you’re gone, people will not remember anything you owned, but they will remember the mark you left on their lives.
It’s not too late to change your ways. Pick up a pen today and write down the kind of legacy you want to leave behind. Then, take actionable steps towards achieving that legacy. Let it be said by future generations that YOU came, saw, and conquered.
May God bless you as you strive towards leaving a positive impact. Good morning.
WHY, MUM? Scene 2
“Why, Mum?”
Cast: Mrs. P – Mum Pam – Daughter Kate – Maid Grace – Pam’s friend Mr. P – Dad Kenny – Pam’s boyfriend
Scene 2: Pam and Kenny at Kenny’s House
Pam: Kenny, when is your Mum coming around?
Kenny: She’s coming this weekend. I need to stock up on food before she arrives.
Pam: Can’t we just take her out to eat?
Kenny: My mum would never agree to that. She taught me how to cook when I was just ten. She’ll expect home-cooked meals every day.
Pam: It’s a good thing you can cook. I don’t cook. What’s the point when we can just hire a maid once we’re married?
Kenny: I don’t mind, but if you’re going to meet my mum, she’ll expect you to offer to cook her lunch or dinner while she’s here.
Pam: Seriously? I’ll just politely tell her that I don’t cook.
Kenny: No, you can’t. If you still want to marry me, that would be a big mistake.
Pam: What do you mean? Are you marrying my cooking or me?
Kenny: Of course, I’m marrying you. But it’s just expected that every woman should know how to cook. My mum is from the old school, and she won’t find it funny if you tell her you don’t cook. She might even tell me not to marry you.
Pam: Because I can’t cook?
Kenny: Yes, it’s a big issue. A good wife must be able to take care of her family, and cooking is an essential skill for her, and for most parents. Haven’t you heard the proverb, ‘The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach’?
Pam: Is that the way to your heart?
Kenny: No, my love. I wish you could cook or at least be willing to learn, but I love you dearly, and I want to marry you. We’ll get a chef once we’re married.
Pam: But that still doesn’t solve the problem of your Mum’s visit.
Kenny: Don’t worry, baby. I have a plan. Let’s go out for lunch, and we’ll discuss it on the way.
To be continued tomorrow…
WHY, MUM ?..Scene 1
CAST: Mum- Mrs P Daughter – Pam Maid – Kate Pam’s friend – Grace Dad – Mr P Pam’s boyfriend – Kenny
SCENE 1 (Pam’s house)
Pam: Mum, I’m hungry. I haven’t eaten all day.
Mum: What do you mean you haven’t eaten? Why didn’t you ask Kate to get you something to eat?
Pam: She went shopping.
Grace: Pam, couldn’t you just go to the kitchen and make something for yourself?
Mum: No way. She’s not allowed in the kitchen. What’s Kate there for? She was supposed to make sure Pam had lunch before she went out.
Grace: Aunty, in my house, my mum wouldn’t let the maid cook for me. As soon as I turned 13, she believed I was old enough to make a sandwich or anything I could manage before the main meal was cooked. And now I’m 19, I can cook almost any kind of meal very well. I remember she made me stay and watch the cook as she prepared the food.
Mum: Well, that was dangerous. You could have seriously burned yourself or worse. And why should Pam spend time in the kitchen when we pay Kate to do that? It doesn’t make sense.
Grace: Well, my mum believed if I burned myself once, next time I would be more careful. And that’s what happened. Also, I needed to learn for the future, when I get married.
Mum: Hmm, that’s cruel. I couldn’t take the risk and allow Pam to burn herself. When Pam gets married, she would hire a cook like I’ve done. She doesn’t need all that stress. Pam, honey, let Mum make you a sandwich before Kate gets here. And when she does, she will face my wrath.
(to be continued)
#Be Inspired By She Heals-Your Next Step
Your next step of a thousand miles starts with just one. You might never take that next step if you worry about how hard it will be or how long it might take. We make the journey by taking each day step by step and then repeating it again and again until we reach our destination. Pray, Focus, think, innovate, collaborate, Keep your eyes on the goal, making that move one day at a time will lead you to the finish line. Step outside your comfort zone because that’s the only way you’re going to grow, breakthrough and succeed.